Finding Calm in the Chaos. Life, Sense, and Sensibility

Do you suffer an ever-increasing barrage of expectations and demands that make life seem chaotic? Here are some tips that may help you calm the chaos that arises when we try to meet everyone’s (including our own) expectations.

Meanings of Sensibility and Chaos

Sensibility is the ability to perceive stimuli.³

Sense refers to any of the faculties by which stimuli from outside or inside the body are received and felt, as the faculties of hearing, sight, smell, touch, taste, and equilibrium.”³ While, six faculties are listed here, in this article, I cover seven.

Chaos is defined as a condition of disorder and confusion or a disorderly mass; a jumble.³ I think ‘out of control’ or ‘out of whack,’ feeling heckled – are what an everyday person might say.

How is This Connected?

In our everchanging modern world, a multitude of stimuli exists. Our senses are bombarded by ever-increasing and ever-changing (and sometimes conflicting) stimuli…unrelentingly. I  think you might agree that, more often than not, it feels like we are traversing a ‘sea of chaos’.

With so much of this, our ability to sense stimuli (our sensibility) causes us to feel like we are in a sea of chaos.

The Way We Respond to Chaos

Our bodies are designed to sense and respond to chaos. It’s about survival.

When we perceive chaos, we are wired in a way that our sense of taste changes, for one thing. We adopt this ability to taste less of the fat and sugar we eat and so we take in more of these things.¹ This has survival advantages harking back to our ancestral days² when the effects of this sensory change helped us survive an impending lack of food or shelter or the threat of attack from predators or contesting parties. To help deal with this, our body is wired to release cortisol. This increases our metabolism and with other neurochemicals readies us for action. (You know that uptight feeling.) Among other things, cortisol acts to increase bloodstream sugar to boost our energy and aid our ‘flight or fight’.

The Problem Today

Today, we have new and evolving perceived threats to our well-being that are as numerous as they are diverse. But, our body still reacts the same as it did in ancestral times. Our inbuilt feedback design is meant to protect us in times of lack or impending survival threat, but instead, it works against us. For one, the change in taste leads to overconsumption of fats and sugars and thus to weight gain that further adds to our anxiety and stress.

By the way, learning to meditate daily is one of the best things you can form as a habit to reduce high cortisol levels that result from stress.

Switching the Stimuli

Here’s the thing…

We see in the example above how the sensing of a threat causes our brain to send signals to our taste buds. So it would seem we have this type of feedback loop that works both ways.

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The two-way feedback loop involving our senses and our brain

The other thing we see is that being stressed has survival benefits, but when we are feeling overwhelmed and stressed more than we should, it will probably do us good to switch the stimuli, change the feedback.

For instance, if we use our sense of sight to look at certain videos, photos, or scenes, our sensibility can make us feel invigorated, joyful, or at peace, and we forget the outer goings on. We can even feel calm in the midst of chaos by doing this.

7 Calm the Chaos Sensibility Hacks

Here is a list of ideas to practice to switch the stimuli and feel calm in the ‘sea of chaos’. You can use as many of these techniques as you want. I suggest you choose ones that resonate with you.

#1. Look at Nature Scenes (Sight)

Nature therapy not only relaxes you, it boosts your immune system. Start the day with a glimpse of sunrise, or in the evening a moonrise or sunset. A dose of morning sunshine also helps with your nightly sleep pattern, which is important for calmness during the day.

Use nature’s gifts to your advantage. This video explains why getting into the forest helps calm the chaos…

If you can’t get outdoors at the moment, get comfy with a cushion, then try closing your eyes and imagining a place in nature that resonates with you. You could do this as a type of meditation.

You could imagine being beside a stream, in a meadow of lavender, sitting on the beach, or somewhere else entirely, as long as it resonates with you.

Other fixes: Swap mess, clutter, and undone work on your desk or bench for serene nature scenes. Or, better still, get outside and capture nature up close during your work or study break.

At night, if you have a fireplace, light a fire and watch the flames flicker. Or, gaze up at the night sky and immerse yourself in its breadth and depth.

#2.  Breathe in Fresh, Natural Scents (Smell)

Experience natural scents that lift your mood, like the scents of the forest, mountain, or sea air.

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Natural fragrances like lavender are calming
If you can’t get there in person: Use calming essential oils in an essential oil diffuser that can run for up to 10 hours,  like this one.

Or, lie down in freshly laundered sheets scented with a calming natural fragrance like lavender.

Or, fill a vase with fresh-cut blooms. 

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#3. The Right Food (Taste)

It’s in our genetic makeup to consume food when feeling threatened (see above). You’ve heard of ‘comfort food’. It was first coined in 1966 to describe food associated with childhood security.

Under severe emotional stress, we turn to comfort food as a coping mechanism. The act of eating can also increase our oxytocin levels, which naturally makes us feel warm and fuzzy.

In support of intuitive eating and calming the chaos, if you are truly craving something, then have it. But it is best to finely balance this with other sensibilities, so it in itself doesn’t lead to binging and create more anxiety.

Try drinking tea if you’re one who finds comfort and likes to work out problems over a cup of tea. Chamomile tea is one recommended for calming and relaxing. Another is lemon balm tea.

Nutrition for Calmness

Consider this an opportunity to take in nutrients to improve your mood. Make sure to include fresh fruits, green vegetables, and berries in your diet as these are said to add crucial vitamins.

Here’s what I have discovered…

Eating foods rich in Vitamin C can help control those cortisol levels that rise with stress.

And consuming carbohydrates, like pasta, rice, and quinoa can help boost serotonin and make you feel better.

Beans, such as black beans, lima beans, and chickpeas are rich in magnesium, which helps to relax muscles and improve mood.

Fresh lemon balm is excellent for relieving anxiety. It also aids digestion.

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Try a Boost of Vitamins to Calm Your System

Being deficient in certain vitamins can add to the feeling of being in chaos. In such cases, supplements may help.

Not always associated with calming, but vitamin C is a known stress buster. If you are really busy, you could try taking Vitamin C supplements as a convenient way to help alleviate high levels of cortisol and support your immune system during times of stress.

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A good Vitamin B complex is known to help with stress, energy, and maintaining a healthy immune system. Especially, Vitamin B helps with our neural health in the synthesis of serotonin (the feel-good chemical) and in supporting the adrenal glands in association with our fight or flight responses.

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There is evidence4 to suggest that taking Vitamin D supplements helps in preventing and treating stress-related issues, especially in older people and others who cannot naturally obtain the goodness from sunshine.

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Other Supportive Supplements

There is a range of supplements that are a complex of natural ingredients that are recommended to reduce stress and anxiety, like Brain Calm, Happy Calm, and BeCalm (see the below table for how these compare).

The benefit of such complexes is that they provide a convenient way of ensuring you support our nervous system when things get a little crazy and you’re feeling the chaos of a busy schedule.

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The following are three popular supplements, formulated to help with stress and in feeling calm.

ItemBest ForIngredients$$$
Brain CalmCalmer brain
Restful nights sleep
Passion flower‚
Glycine‚ and

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Happy CalmMemory, focus, attention, mood.
Increased energy, clarity
Amino Acids (1,350 mg): DL-Phenylalanine & L-Glutamine;
Vitamins A, B, & E;
Chromium + more

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Be CalmRelaxation
Positive mood
Vitamins C & B,
Choline bitartrate,
PABA, + more

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#4. Listen to Music (Sound)

Sounds of water flowing, and other nature sounds, like forest bird songs, are some of the best music for boosting mood.

Then, there are the low-frequency vibrations in the Alpha wave range, which help you relax and find inner peace – here’s an example.

Music soothes the soul. Tune into your favorite music.

Tip: use noise-canceling earphones that are wireless and sweatproof (so good for the gym and summer outdoors) to mask other noise or when in public.

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Songs or audio that remind you of fun times are especially good for calming the mind

#5. Get Touchy Feely (Touch)

For this, you could order a massage or get a friend to give you a hug. This will help boost your mood from the release of oxytocin.

Or, you could get into some cozy breathable clothing that feels great on.

To naturally reduce stress and increase relaxation, a lot of people are choosing a weighted blanket, like this one, as it simulates the feeling of being held or hugged and this has a calming effect. This is popular among those who experience heightened sensitivities. 

Other touch ways to find calm:

  • Lie in a bathtub of warm water with a couple of handfuls of Epsom salts (magnesium sulfate) after work
  • Get treated at the hairdressers
  • Walk barefoot in grassed areas or along the beach
  • Pat or groom a ‘furry friend’

#6. Use Proprioception to Shift Overstimulation

The proprioception system is located in your muscles and joints and controls our coordinated body movement or regulation of your posture.

It is an awareness of self-expression through your body’s pose. This sense centers on muscle spindles. Unconsciously, you express it in how you stand, your facial expressions, and body language, etc., when you feel a certain way.

For example, you might continually frown when you are stressed, or walk with a slumped posture. It’s good to ease this as if you are continually frowning, your skin will show furrows on your forehead as you age.

What to do for a calm life?

  • Practice yoga
  • Play an instrument as a past-time
  • Do stretches at your desk or bench
  • Walk tall
  • Go for a walk (in mindfulness) during your breaks
  • Close and open and move eyes side to side and then up and down, while visualizing a fun place
  • Lie down for a while with a heavy quilt, like this one. This type of cover helps to relax your muscles and allow calming thoughts fill your mind

#7. Balance – Using Your Vestibular Sense

The vestibular system contributes to our awareness of body balance and spatial orientation through sensory organs in our inner ear.

“And the chaos within me found balance” by unknown

Using your vestibular sense for soothing:

  • Rocking slowly in a rocking chair
  • Find a swing in a playground and swing high and low (you’ll be surprised at how it feels)
  • Lay flat on your back on the grass and watch the clouds in the sky move and dissolve

How Sensibility is a Chaos Calmer

On a daily basis, the ever-changing technology and new ways of doing business take their toll, yeah? And, then there’s the unspoken pressure on you to perform…To be that promotion-worthy employee, that perfect parent, or that gangbuster successful participant of whatever.

We are designed to survive and our senses help us do that.

Our ability to detect stimuli helps us survive.² We are wired to respond to threats or danger. It’s the ‘fight-or-flight’ response (due to chemical releases) that helps us overcome or avoid ‘danger’. It’s part of our human evolution. From stimuli, we construct meaning, and then, perceive the world around us, e.g., are we in chaos, world upheaval, or peaceful bliss?


Tips on Using Sensibility Calming Techniques

♦ Try scheduling these each day. There are apps you can use, like Trello, that will allow you to access your schedule on any device anywhere.

♦ Choose certain times, like when you know you might feel frazzled or when it’s practical, like during lunch or morning or afternoon breaks.

Finding peace among the chaos is about finding balance. It centers on finding your true self-awareness.

Stress and anxiety can lead to ongoing depression, which no one craves. So it is best to find your peace and chaos calmers that work for you.

Here are some ‘calming the chaos’ strategies that focus on ignoring and managing the situation:

  • Shift your focus (ignore)
  • Focus on one thing at a time (ignore/manage)
  • Don’t say ‘yes’ to everything (ignore/manage)
  • Schedule, prioritize, and plan (manage)
  • Practice daily meditation or mindfulness (manage)
  • Use prayer, faith, and belief, as suggested by Max Lucado (manage)

How We Control Perceived Chaos

We perceive things are chaotic because stimuli are sent to our brain from our senses to tell us just that. Our neural connections interpret the outside. What we hear, see, taste, feel, or smell fires messages to our brain that affect our moods and our sense of chaos, and peace also.

Proprioception and vestibular are two other senses that work in sending stimuli or messages to the brain that are included.

So, we perceive the world according to what we sense or our ability to sense (sensibility). We also make sense of our world, and perceived chaos, from our perceptions. It’s a kind of a feedback loop.

Final Advice for Finding Calm in the Chaos

We can at times feel that our minds are in chaos. But, did you know this chaos saying…

Those of us with chaotic minds are more creative and perceptive than our non-chaotic counterparts. ~ Cathi King

…creative minds tend to be more chaotic than others.

So…Know your capabilities.

What can you change? What can’t you ignore?

Be realistic. Know when your energy levels peak and when they fade.

Do this without judging.

Finally, consciously practice shifting your incoming messages and see what difference it makes.

Hope this helps you find balance.

Other Resources

The Sensory Connection:

A trusted guide to mental, emotional & social health:

Dealing with a chaotic mind from a writer’s perspective:

Finding time in the chaos:

Dess NK, Edelheit D (1998) The bitter with the sweet: the taste/stress/temperament nexus. Biol Psychol 48: 103–119.

Swaffield J & Roberts SC (2015) Exposure to cues of harsh or safe environmental conditions alters food preferences, Evolutionary Psychological Science, 1 (2), pp. 69-76.


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