Your True Self And How To Use Your Ego For Fulfillment

Your true Self is free of personas, perceptions, and your Ego. It can be considered your wild heart. So what is the difference between the Ego and your true Self? Why have an Ego? And, when do you know it is your true Self? Instead of being divided, the following is my guide on bringing it together, and is part of my Self Wilding series.

Your Ego operates to promote and defend you. It’s about you and who you think you are.

Your Ego is an actor, and the world is its stage. It is an important part of operating in modern society — navigating that highway through civil life.

In contrast, the true Self is about a consciousness of the world from a higher perspective.

A balance of the two, though with your Ego predominantly being led by your true Self, is the goal for a freer, more meaningful life. Read on to learn more.

1. Defining your Ego

Knowledge sources define Ego as:

  • Your idea or opinion of yourself, especially your feeling of your importance and ability (Cambridge Dictionary)
  • “The organized part of the personality structure that includes defensive, perceptual, intellectual-cognitive, and executive functions” (Sigmund Freud – Id, ego, and super-ego – Wikipedia)
  • The false self (Many spiritual traditions)

Here, I refer to the Ego as one of three layers surrounding your true Self. See the diagram in my article on Self Wilding. Its purpose is to support you against the rest of the world and is all about you.

2. Ego is a Good Servant, but a Bad Master

More the knowledge lesser the Ego, lesser the knowledge, more the Ego ~ Albert Einstein

Your Ego is interested in how you rate against others. It can stop you doing things that might mean stretching beyond the ordinary. Like… why on Earth would you want to go barefoot in public?

Used positively, it can help develop your potential. For example, it could drive you to develop the most amazing results and so can give you much fulfillment.

Used unwisely, it will undermine your self-worth and jeopardize your wellbeing. Comparing yourself with others can feed that monkey on your back, that critical inner voice.

At work and school, and likewise, in sport, relationships, and social life, it is a challenge not to bow to a dominant Ego.

Social media, especially, is a place where Egos can dominate.

Your Ego can come from a place of fear. Fear will stop you from making risky decisions. But, continually acting out of fear with a dominant Ego, creates a life of anxiety.

3. True Self

Balance returns when you align with your true Self, which is not about control. It is a higher consciousness of there being no separation and thus no need to feel anxious or insecure about being left out.

Our true Self focuses on higher values of love, truth, creativity, collaboration, and compassion.

Experiencing the higher levels of awareness provides a way of ending subservience to the Ego.

To know whether your Ego dominates, check your intentions. Are they all about you or more so about the greater good? 

When all is balanced, you will begin to realize a freer life.

4. The spiritual connection

Most people have difficulty with the concept of a higher consciousness, or the true Self, even though all spiritual traditions, both Eastern and Western embody it.

Many people, however, are in ignorance of their true destinies and are striving for things and situations which do not belong to them, and would only bring failure and dissatisfaction if attained. ~ Florence Scovel Shinn

The need for spiritual connection, prayer, connection with the inner self, appears vastly underrated in our culture. We tend to dismiss the importance of meditation and nature experience.

Prayer, meditation, positive visualization boost serotonin levels and your feelings of well being, relaxed concentration and peace. ~Mary Ann Copson.

Including creative visualization during meditation is especially potent. Shakti Gawain’s has a good book about this: Creative Visualization: Use the Power of Your Imagination to Create What You Want in Your Life, (check it out on Amazon), which had more than six million copies sold worldwide.

The books that first inspired me on spiritual connection have been those by Florence Scovel Shinn. Though written early last century, her messages are timeless. The affirmations in her four books, The Power of the Spoken Word, Your Word is Your Wand (now in tatters), The Secret Door to Success and The Game of Life and How to Play It, have given me strength and supported me through life’s difficulties.

You can get these four books, they are available together in The Complete Works of Florence Scovel Shinn — See this book on Amazon.

5. Balance is Critical

Everywhere in nature, balance is supreme! Imbalance quickly leads to poor health and disarray in any system.

In today’s society, we have an imbalance with a disproportionate amount of value given to consumerism. Unwittingly, when indoctrinated, our Egos point us further in this direction.

For the well-being of us and our living quarters (Planet Earth), we need balance.

Certainly, it takes courage to shift from a self-centered slumber-like mode commanded by consumerism to one for the greater good

But, being fulfilled from a higher consciousness brings a new contentment.

We don’t need to spend our entire life endlessly pursuing the hedonism of a materialistic world.

We can choose to be fulfilled from within by connecting to the God Source or Higher Intelligence. Our awakening is like the mystical phoenix rising from the ashes or a lotus blooming from out of the muddy waters.

We can choose to live like an eagle soaring to greater heights with each storm with our true Self in command. Or, like a wanderer, journeying for endless days on a long dusty route, seeking an oasis, but finding mirages, with the Ego in charge. That’s my take! Interested to hear yours too.

Disclaimer: The information on this website not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice diagnosis or treatment. Please see my disclaimer for more details.

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